Emily n Steve
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Paradise
This is a story of two people coming together through like interest. Those interest being fitness, food, music, and romance. We will be exploring how that has led to the growth of this bond.
First Talk
The date was March 31st, 2025 and we exchanged text on Facebook dating app.
Introduction to each other
Best way to introduce yourself to a womenThe best way to introduce yourself to a woman depends on the context (social, professional, casual, etc.), but here’s a concise, versatile approach that works in most situations, combining confidence, warmth, and authenticity:Start with a Smile and Eye Contact: Approach her with a friendly, relaxed demeanor. A genuine smile and brief eye contact show confidence and put her at ease.
Simple, Direct Introduction: Say your name clearly and offer a brief, context-appropriate opener. For example:
Social setting: “Hi, I’m [Your Name]. I noticed you from across the room and thought you seemed interesting. Mind if I join you for a moment?”
Professional setting: “Hi, I’m [Your Name]. I work in [your field/role], and I’ve heard great things about your work. Nice to meet you!”
Casual setting (e.g., coffee shop): “Hi, I’m [Your Name]. I couldn’t help but notice you’re reading [book]/working on something cool. What’s that about?”
Offer a Handshake or Respect Space: In professional or formal settings, a firm handshake is great. In casual or social situations, gauge her body language—some women may prefer no physical contact initially, so keep it natural and respect her space.
Engage Immediately: Follow your intro with a question or comment to spark conversation. For example, ask about something in the environment, her interests, or a shared context. Avoid generic lines; focus on something specific, like, “What brought you to this event?” or “That’s a cool necklace—does it have a story?”
Be Authentic and Brief: Don’t overthink it or try to impress with a rehearsed script. Keep it short, sincere, and tailored to the moment. Let your personality shine through naturally.
Tips:Read the situation: If she’s busy, distracted, or with a group, keep your intro brief and low-pressure.
Avoid pickup lines or overly bold compliments about her appearance; they can come off as insincere.
Be prepared to exit gracefully if she’s not receptive: “Well, I’ll let you get back to it. Nice meeting you!” shows respect.
If you have a specific scenario (e.g., at a bar, workplace, or mutual friend’s party), let me know, and I can refine the approach!Things to find out first time talking to a girl your interested inWhen talking to a girl you’re interested in for the first time, the goal is to build a connection, show genuine curiosity, and keep things light and natural. Focus on learning about her as a person while gauging compatibility and mutual interest. Here are key things to find out, tailored for a first conversation:Her Interests and Passions: Ask open-ended questions like, “What do you love doing when you’ve got a free weekend?” or “What’s something you’re really into lately?” This reveals what she values and gives you insight into her personality. It also sets up easy follow-up topics.
Her Sense of Humor: Notice how she responds to light humor or playful comments. Try a gentle tease or a funny observation about the setting (e.g., “Is this coffee shop always this chaotic, or did we just pick the wildest time?”). Her reaction shows if your humor aligns and how comfortable she is with banter.
Her Vibe and Energy: Pay attention to her body language and tone. Is she outgoing, reserved, sarcastic, or thoughtful? This helps you understand how she communicates and whether your energies mesh. For example, if she’s shy, you might ease into deeper questions more slowly.
Shared Context or Common Ground: Find out what brought her to the setting (e.g., a party, event, or class). Ask, “How’d you end up here tonight?” or “What’s your favorite thing about [shared activity]?” This creates a natural connection point and shows you’re engaged in the moment.
Her Perspective or Opinions: Ask about something light but revealing, like, “What’s a movie or show you’ve been obsessed with lately?” or “What’s the best place you’ve traveled to?” Her answers give a glimpse into her tastes and experiences, hinting at compatibility.
Basic Life Context: Without turning it into an interview, gently learn about her lifestyle. Questions like, “Are you more of a city person or do you escape to nature when you can?” or “What’s keeping you busy these days?” can reveal if she’s a student, working professional, or has a hectic schedule.
Tips for the Conversation:Balance Sharing and Listening: Share a bit about yourself to keep it mutual, but don’t dominate. For example, if she mentions loving hiking, say, “Nice, I’m into trail runs myself—what’s your go-to spot?”
Avoid Overly Personal Questions: Steer clear of heavy topics like past relationships, family drama, or finances. Keep it fun and positive.
Read Her Cues: If she’s giving short answers or seems distracted, pivot to a lighter topic or gracefully wrap up. If she’s engaged, dig a bit deeper.
Be Present: Put away your phone, maintain eye contact, and show you’re genuinely curious. This makes her feel valued.
By focusing on these areas, you’ll learn enough to decide if there’s potential for a deeper connection while keeping the chat enjoyable. If you have a specific setting in mind (e.g., a bar, school, or online), let me know, and I can tweak the suggestions!
First Impressions
These are some of the first images I saw of Emily that caught my eye and attracted me to her profile.Her Bio read:
Healthy lifestyle. Kindness and respect is life love weekend getaways, tropical places, to dress up or baseball hat and shorts. Love coffee or wine over great conversation, cooking at home and relaxing, playing pickleball, the outdoors and exploring new places.
Some of the first photos she saw of me.And my Bio read as follows:
Chasing sunsets and touchdowns, one flight at a time. Forever seeking a partner to share life's adventures with.
SoulMate
A soulmate is often described as a person with whom you share a deep, natural connection that feels profound and almost destined. The concept varies across cultures and perspectives but generally includes:Emotional Bond: A sense of understanding and empathy that goes beyond typical relationships, where you feel truly seen and accepted.
Compatibility: Shared values, goals, or complementary traits that make the relationship feel effortless, even through challenges.
Spiritual Connection: Some believe soulmates are connected on a spiritual level, possibly from past lives or a cosmic plan, fostering a sense of "meant to be."
Growth Catalyst: A soulmate often inspires personal growth, challenging you to be your best self while offering unwavering support.
Philosophically, the idea stems from ancient texts like Plato’s Symposium, where humans were split into halves, forever seeking their other half. Modern views range from romantic (one perfect partner) to broader interpretations (multiple soulmates, including friends or family, who profoundly impact your life).Skeptics argue it’s a romanticized notion, driven by chemistry and projection rather than fate. Psychologically, it may reflect attachment styles or idealized expectations.The term is subjective—some see it as a lifelong partner, others as a fleeting but transformative connection. What it means depends on your beliefs about love, destiny, and human connection.
First Date
Met at Sushi and saw Orny Adams
Our first Date took place at Osawa sushi in Pasadena. This was recommended by Emily she had been there before and said it was excellant. It for sure did not disappoint, super fresh sushi with incredible taste and my first time trying a form of fresh wasabi and it was absolutely mind blowing.The conversation was good from start to finish of learning about what each of us do, and what our backgrounds were. We seem to have so much in common and were so excited to talk to each other at least that's how I felt. After we finished our dinner we walked to Emily's car and she drove us over to the comedy club the ICEHOUSE.At the Icehouse we saw a great show by one of my favorite comics Orny Adams and we both laughed so much. We should have also played the couples game in the waiting area but we both were a little nervous to since it was date 1. After the show we went back to the car and I politely opened Emily's driver's door and also put her seatbelt on her and proceeded to give her the First Kiss. How incredible that felt and perfect end to an already incredible night.
A clip from Orny Adams at the Ice House Pasadena
Making a good first impression
Making a good first impression on a woman comes down to a few key things that signal respect, confidence, and genuine interest. It’s about how you present yourself and interact in those initial moments, whether it’s a romantic context, professional setting, or casual encounter. Here’s a breakdown based on general social dynamics and psychology:Confidence, Not Arrogance: Stand tall, maintain eye contact, and speak clearly. Confidence shows you’re comfortable in your own skin, but avoid crossing into cockiness—nobody likes a show-off. A warm smile and relaxed posture go a long way.
Genuine Interest: Pay attention to her. Ask open-ended questions about her interests or opinions and listen actively to her responses. This shows you value her as a person, not just her appearance. Avoid generic compliments; instead, notice something specific, like her energy or a unique detail about her style.
Respectful Behavior: Be polite and considerate. This means respecting her personal space, not interrupting when she speaks, and avoiding overly personal or crude remarks. Treat her as an equal, not a conquest or someone to impress.
Appearance and Hygiene: You don’t need to look like a model, but being clean, well-groomed, and dressed appropriately for the context (casual, professional, etc.) signals self-respect. It’s less about fashion and more about showing you care about the interaction.
Positive Energy: Bring a friendly, approachable vibe. Humor can help if it’s natural and not forced, but steer clear of anything offensive or overly self-deprecating. Enthusiasm is contagious, but don’t overdo it to the point of seeming insincere.
Authenticity: Be yourself, not a version you think she’ll like. Women can often sense when someone’s putting on an act, and it’s a turn-off. Share a bit of your personality—whether you’re witty, thoughtful, or quirky—without trying too hard to impress.
Context matters. A good first impression in a professional setting might lean more on competence and respect, while a social or romantic one might allow for more warmth and charm. Ultimately, it’s about making her feel valued and comfortable while being true to yourself. If you’re unsure about specifics, like the setting or her personality, let me know, and I can tailor the advice further!
Recall of our Dates
2nd: Water Grill in Santa Monica followed by Holey Moley Golf
3rd Date: Sushi in Pasadena followed by Bowling
4th Date: Breakfast made for us by Emily. Then off to Mother's Day Workout at Hardcore Fitness followed by a Hike
5th date: Matt Fraser America's Top Medium in Ventura
6th Date: Arden in WeHO and Comedy Store
Date 7: Emily made us Fajitas and we watched Hereafter with Matt Damon
Date 8: Emily drove to me to watch Life of Pi and first B Day dinner at Ocean 48
9th Date: Father's Day Bowling in Pasadena again with Sushi
Gifts
Love is never about yourself but about others. And sometimes you have a connection so strong that is makes you so much happier to give than to get.
Mirascents: Fresh Cut Roses Candle
Book: Matt Fraser (Don't Wait till You're Dead)
Kurt mini dress in Pink by Michael Costello (REVOLVE)
July 14th day at the Spa with Shiatsu Massage and Foot Massage plus enjoy all the ammenties.Different rooms include:
The Bulgama
The Salt Sauna
The Clay Sauna
The Jade Room
The Ice Room
Magic at the Biltmore with David Minkin Sat Aug 2nd at 8pm
Birthday weekend trip to San Diego staying at the Pendry Hotel in Gaslamp
Tennis Bracelet symbolizes grace, balance and eternity. Their continuous row of diamonds represent an unbroken bond, making them a meaningful gift for significant milestones such as birthdays or anniversaries. The bracelet's timeless design also evokes elegance and sophistication.
Trips
1st planned trip together is to Gas Lamp District in San Diego, CA. The trip is our first overnight together and is for Emily's birthday celebration.
Some of our plans will be to go to Zama for Birthday dinner, enjoy some time in gaslamp in evening. On way home plan is to find a rooftop bar to have brunch and enjoy the day together.
2nd trip will be our first time flying somewhere together. We will be going to Austin, TX for my birthday celebration.
3rd trip together will be our first trip to AZ together plan is to staying in Scottsdale, AZ at the new Caeser Republic hotel. This will also be week one of ASU football season when they will be playing NAU, so we will attend the college football game together.
Zodiac Signs
What is a Cancer (June 22 - July 22)
In astrology, a Cancer woman (born between June 22 and July 22) is characterized by traits associated with the Cancer zodiac sign, ruled by the Moon, a water sign known for its emotional depth and nurturing nature. Since you’re asking about a woman you’re interested in and how to approach her, I’ll describe the personality traits of a Cancer woman in a way that ties into making a good first impression and starting a conversation, keeping it concise and relevant to your earlier questions.Characteristics of a Cancer Woman:
Emotional and Intuitive: Cancer women are deeply in tune with their feelings and often pick up on others’ emotions. They value genuine, heartfelt interactions. When introducing yourself, be sincere—something like, “Hi, I’m [Your Name]. I saw you and just had a good feeling I should say hi.” This appeals to her intuitive side.
Nurturing and Caring: She’s often the “caretaker” type, drawn to creating comfort and security. Ask about something she’s passionate about, like, “What’s something you love doing that makes you lose track of time?” This shows you’re interested in her softer, nurturing side.
Loyal and Protective: Cancer women value trust and close connections. They can be cautious at first, so don’t come on too strong. A low-key intro like, “Hi, I’m [Your Name]. This place has a great vibe—do you come here often?” feels safe and opens the door for her to share.
Home-Oriented and Sentimental: She might love cozy, personal settings or have a nostalgic streak. Try asking, “What’s a place that feels like home to you?” or mention a light memory of your own to spark a connection, like, “This coffee shop reminds me of one I used to visit with friends—what’s a spot you love?”
Creative and Imaginative: Many Cancer women have a creative side, whether it’s art, cooking, or storytelling. Notice something unique about her—like her style or a book she’s holding—and ask, “That’s such a cool [item]—is there a story behind it?” This taps into her imaginative nature.
Sensitive and Guarded: She may take time to open up, as she protects her emotions. Avoid overly bold or flirty lines early on. Keep your approach warm and respectful, and give her space to feel comfortable, like, “I don’t want to interrupt, but I’d love to chat for a minute if you’re up for it.”
Tips for Approaching a Cancer Woman:
Create a Comfortable Vibe: Choose a relaxed setting for your introduction, as she thrives in environments that feel safe and cozy. If you’re at a loud party, suggest stepping to a quieter spot to talk.
Show Emotional Depth: Share a small, authentic detail about yourself after asking her a question. For example, if you ask about her favorite book, mention one you love and why it resonates.
Be Patient: She might be shy or reserved initially. If she’s not super talkative, don’t push—smile and say, “It was great meeting you, maybe I’ll see you around?” to keep the door open.
Compliment Thoughtfully: Instead of focusing on her looks, notice her energy or something specific, like, “You seem like someone who’s got a lot of interesting stories.”
Things to Find Out in Conversation:
Her Comfort Zone: Ask about places or activities that make her feel at ease, like, “What’s your go-to way to unwind?” This aligns with her home-loving nature.
Her Emotional Interests: Learn what moves her, like, “What’s a movie or song that always hits you emotionally?” This taps into her sensitive side.
Her Connections: Ask about her friends or family lightly, like, “Are you here with friends tonight?” Cancer women often cherish their close circle, and this shows you value her world.
By approaching her with warmth, authenticity, and a focus on emotional connection, you’ll align with her Cancer traits and make a great first impression. If you have a specific scenario (e.g., where you’re meeting her or more about her personality), let me know, and I can refine this further!
What is a Leo (July 23 - August 23)
A Leo man, born between July 23 and August 22, is a vibrant force of nature, radiating confidence and charisma like the Sun, his ruling planet. Picture a guy who walks into a room and instantly commands attention—not because he’s loud (though he can be), but because his energy is magnetic. He’s bold, ambitious, and thrives on being the center of attention, whether leading a project or charming a crowd with his warm, infectious enthusiasm.He’s got a lion’s heart—generous, loyal, and fiercely protective of those he loves. He’ll go out of his way to make others feel special, often with grand gestures or heartfelt support. His creativity shines through in how he expresses himself, whether it’s through style, storytelling, or tackling challenges with flair. Passion drives him, and he’s not afraid to chase big dreams or take risks to achieve them.But there’s a flip side. His pride can make him stubborn, and he might crave admiration a bit too much, occasionally coming off as arrogant or sensitive to criticism. He’s not one to back down easily, and his need for control can spark clashes. Yet, beneath that bold exterior, he’s deeply caring, with a warmth that makes people feel seen and valued.Of course, astrology is just a lens—every Leo man is unique, shaped by his experiences and choices, but these traits paint a vivid picture of his core vibe.
Do Cancer and Leo Make a good couple?
A Leo man (July 23–August 22) and a Cancer woman (June 22–July 22) can make a dynamic and complementary couple, but their compatibility depends on how they navigate their differences. Here’s a breakdown based on astrological traits:Strengths of a Leo Man and Cancer Woman Pairing
Emotional Connection: Cancer women are nurturing, empathetic, and deeply emotional, which pairs well with the Leo man’s warm-hearted and loyal nature. He appreciates her caring side, while she’s drawn to his confidence and protective instincts.
Mutual Support: Leo’s ambition and leadership can inspire Cancer, who often prefers a supportive role. She provides a stable, loving home base, which fuels his drive to shine in the world.
Passion and Romance: Leo’s flair for grand gestures and Cancer’s desire for emotional security can create a passionate dynamic. He loves to shower her with attention, and she responds with devotion, making for a romantic bond.
Complementary Energies: Leo’s bold, outgoing fire sign energy contrasts with Cancer’s intuitive, introspective water sign nature. This can balance them—Leo encourages Cancer to step out of her shell, while she softens his edges with her sensitivity.
Potential Challenges
Different Needs: Leo craves admiration and thrives in the spotlight, while Cancer seeks emotional security and prefers a quieter, more private life. If Leo’s need for attention feels excessive to Cancer, or if her moodiness overwhelms him, tension can arise.
Emotional Styles: Cancer’s sensitivity can clash with Leo’s pride. If she feels neglected or he feels criticized, conflicts may flare. Leo’s directness might unintentionally hurt Cancer’s feelings, as she’s prone to retreating when hurt.
Control Dynamics: Both can be stubborn in their own way—Leo with his fixed-sign determination and Cancer with her emotional tenacity. Compromise may be needed to avoid power struggles.
Tips for Success
Communication: Leo should be mindful of Cancer’s emotional needs, offering reassurance and listening patiently. Cancer can work on expressing her feelings directly to avoid withdrawing.
Balance Public and Private Life: Leo can include Cancer in his social world while respecting her need for cozy, intimate moments. Planning date nights at home or small gatherings can keep both happy.
Mutual Appreciation: Leo thrives on praise, and Cancer loves feeling secure. Regularly affirming each other—Leo with gestures of love, Cancer with words of admiration—strengthens their bond.
Verdict
A Leo man and Cancer woman can be a great match if they embrace their differences and play to their strengths. Their relationship can blend Leo’s fiery passion with Cancer’s nurturing depth, creating a warm, loyal, and vibrant partnership. Success hinges on mutual respect, with Leo providing confidence and Cancer offering emotional grounding. Individual personalities and life experiences matter more than just sun signs, so open communication is key to making it work.If you want a deeper dive (e.g., considering moon or rising signs or specific scenarios), let me know!